Life can truly throw several lemons your way, that is a fact and to be expected. the way that you choose to see each lemon in your path determines whether or not it is a bad thing. You really are so much more than your problems. When life throws you lemons make chocolate cake. It doesn’t matter if you have everything that you desire at this moment in time. It doesn’t matter whether or not you are at the top of your game what does matter is that you are taking the time to look at the flour, eggs and milk that life has also placed in your path. In other words not everything in life is bad or meant to be a defeat. Sometimes those lemons that we think are meant to tear us down are actually redirections into something better. You have to be the one to see that.
Don’t blind yourself with despair before you count all of your blessings. Even if you are not a religious person, know that there is a reason for everything that happens. Once again thinking in terms of basic science. Cause and effect. There is no action without reaction… Saying that train your reactions, so that you can choose to see the total picture and not just the sad parts. It will not be easy but it does get better over time. We look at things like the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, our fear of being alone, our inadequacies and anything negative that we see or feel around us we use as proof that life really does suck. We don’t see the things that life has also brought us.
Using cake as an example: all of your good days are your sugar, your best days are the chocolate, the days in between are your flour. Think about it. Can you count the number of days that you live? Can you count the moments, that you are happy? No it’s nearly impossible right? Just as impossible as it is to count grains of salt, flour or sugar. We have so many of those days and moments that they can not be measured. No one said they had to be big or huge moments. They may be as small as a thought that made you smile or a smell that made you feel good. All of those things happen all of the time but go unnoticed in the face of the big bad Lemon. We don’t see that if we so choose to we can make a giant glass of lemonade or if you are really feeling good maybe drink a shot of tequila with those lemons.
Everyone always says that we only life once but that is actually not true at all. we live every single day. We wake up each morning with a new beginning. A new future. We can not relive the past. We can not change yesterday so instead of worrying about that moment, try being open to the future. No one can ever say that life is going to be a bed of roses and easy. That is untrue since not every moment is guaranteed. But also you are not guaranteed to live beyond the next five minutes so why worry about that which you can not control. Life HAPPENS. Change the way that you view the issues you face. Redirections may seem scary and upsetting but they might be leading you into a greater tomorrow. Sure you might have to travel through the muck and pain of life in order to get where you need to be but you survive it. You are stronger because of it. You are not broken. You may be dinged and beat up but you are not broken.
My redirection cost me dearly. I felt lost and unsure on a lot of things. I began to doubt who I was and what I was meant to do. Only through stepping back and looking at the real me without the sting of my pride and the lies of my fears, am I able to say that now, I welcome the lemons in my life. They are not fun. They are not something I will seek out, but I am not afraid because I have survived each and every one of them. SO CAN YOU. So fire up the oven and let’s start baking the cake that is our glorious lives.
P.S. I gained seven pounds writing this post , lol.