Don’t Throw You Away….

2014-03-10-15-29-14--216826980Trashy vs Classy, do you know the difference? Over the course of three years I researched the attitudes of men and women and the way we look at and see each other. It’s no secret the way that the media decides the popular woman or man. Meaning we base the way we dress, act and conduct ourselves primarily on what we see. The way that a lot of us see our personalities is not so much influenced  by our own individuality but by the lastest fad or trend of the moment.  When you turn on the television if every woman on there is dressed in six inch stilettos and a skirt up the rump nine times out of ten, if you look outside the window you will see nearly every third woman trying to mimic the look. There is nothing new there right? This has been going on since forever.

What happens though when the ‘hot woman’ or the popular image that is being pushed is not exactly the most wholesome? Or what if she is too goody two shoes?

What if the woman of the moment is loud and  brash? What if the new woman is a little raunchy? What if she is not truly ‘YOU’? TRASHY in my opinion is really not all about the clothes you might wear. tumblr_lp7aouAm8R1r0h8q0o1_500In fact I could care less about what you wear so long as you wear the clothing meant for your personality.  The worst kind of trashiness to me  is the loss of who you are. The total disregard of self in favor of assimilation.  In my opinion,  That’s what we do each day when we knowingly refuse to be individuals.  It’s trashy because it is as if we are willingly throwing away the person in the mirror. We just want to fit in. But in the process we lose the image of the woman/man in the mirror. This is where the trashiness begins to show outwardly.


be-a-leaderThrowing you away is doing yourself the most grevious disservice there is. You were born to stand out. You were born to shine, don’t worry about whether you fit into a certain mold you’re YOU.  Stop trying to fit an image that belongs to someone else.  Be your own CLASS ACT. You are so much better than an imagined competition with a fictitious person. What I mean by that is using Beyoncé as an example, I see her bouncing aroundand wearing skimpy clothes that have men going nuts…. I am not Beyonce but here I am trying to squeeze my size ten self into an outfit meant for her.images Sure guys will still look but they might not have the same reaction.  They might look at me and assume I am trying too hard or think that since I’m not an entertainer I’m might be judged on how I appear. The question I have then is why did I feel the need to be like Beyonce?  Her image is not mine and we dont travel in the same circles so the idea that she and I are competitors is ludicrous. So why am I trying so hard?

2014-03-10-15-29-30--2081377712The issue of sexuality and the hypersexed society that we live in makes it extremely hard for the individual to not be tempted to go for the  shock factor just tobe nnoticed. This should be all the reason you need to try harder to be an individual.  Be classy. Open yourself up to the glamorous you. Throw out the image of the popular woman and look in the mirror at the sexy you. Throw out the illfitting clothes and scrape off the two tons of make up. You’re perfect without it. Your clothes are an extension of you. They cant show the real you if you copied it from a magazine.  Imagine what life would be like if everyone was truly unique. If you walked outside and the world instantly recognized you. Be classy enough to think of yourself as your own celebrity model. Your life is  your runway and the world is your stage. Trashy vs Classy basically fake vs real. Accepting the person in the mirror enough to let the world see you is the sexiest form of self love. No outside influence necessary.

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