Some days are just one of those days. We all have them. Days where no matter what, we wake up mad or sad. We may feel depressed and angry and have no idea why. Some days we just wake up needing to feel the arms of someone we love holding us and allowing us to let go and simply be…. Sometimes even the arms of a stranger is enough. Why do we feel this way? Why can’t we just jump back in bed and hit the reset button? Why can’t every day be a good day?Those bad days are completely normal and don’t neccessarily mean that the world is coming to an end. It only means that you simply have a bad day. We all have them. Accept them and move forward. We all have days in which the curveballs of our world hit us hard and cause us to really just want to give up. I have those days too.
I have days where I want to crawl back under my blanket and hide from the world. Days where I just don’t want to take or handle anymore pain and what I see as inner turmoil. I don’t want to be sad. I don’t want to cry. I don’t want to do anything beyond living in that moment. I know those days are a part of my world. I also know that they will not last always. For some of us we have those days more than others and that is the time that I would urge you to try to find solace in any way that you can, including seeking medical help. Depression may not seem like a big deal to a lot of us because we assume that it can be willed away. In a lot of cases it can but in others it can’t. Being depressed is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t make you mentally unfit. It doesn’t make you a pariah. It doesn’t make you an alien. It makes you a depressed person. Not everyones depression is the same so don’t allow the issues of another fool you into thinking that your problem doesn’t matter. For instance we all hear the phrase that ‘Someone else has it worse than you.’ Well that may be true but it doesn’t negate your pain. It doesn’t change the fact that I am still sad and it doesn’t change the fact that I am still depressed. All it changes is the fact that I am not alone.
Bad days don’t necessarily mean you are depressed however. It can simply mean you are just in need of a little peace. Sometimes having a bad day can mean it is time to step away from it all and simply be still. Be quiet. Leave all of the issues of life including family and friends for the moment and concentrate solely on the person in the mirror. You may be in desperate need of some me time. It’s ok to be a little selfish with you. Its ok to feel overwhelmed with life. Its ok to just have that weak moment. It doesn’t change the fact that you are still a warrior. It doesn’t not change the fact that you are still strong. It doesn’t change that you are still an awesome being.
You are human, Not Wonder Woman or Superman. Sure you are a force to be reckoned with in all things but you are still able to just have that day where you can let down your hair and simply be. You don’t have to solve the world’s problems. You can be still. You can have a bad day and not feel guilty because you don’t feel like being the perfect mom. You don’t have to be the best executive or the perfect and politically correct friend. This day can be your day to simply lean. If you have surrounded yourself with people who understand you and truly care about you they will understand your moodiness and not take it as offensive. But to be honest even if they do that doesn’t neccessarily mean you are wrong unless you have turned your bad day into an abusive one. Meaning you take out your anger on others.
My bad days are usually filled with me stepping aside and watching lots of Looney Tunes. I relax watching the news or reading. Sure I get gripey and have been known to snap at people but those that know me understand and leave me to my space. If you are depressed then don’t isolate yourself like I did during that time in my life. Instead find someone to talk to . Talk to friends. Talk to family. Talk to a therapist or call a hotline. Don’t sit in silence and allow your depression to deepen due to self imposed isolation. find some type of outlet that can help you get some measure of peace for the moment. Even during your depression you are still in control. You still have the power over you. You may not see it at the moment but it is still there. No one can take that power away. No problem is so great that you can’t overcome it. It may just mean taking a different approach tailored to you. You are not alone. We are all the same. We are all friends. We are all sisters and brothers. We are all in this together. If you need a shoulder lean on me because I will certainly lean on you. 🙂