When you wake up in the morning whom do you see in the mirror? Do you see you or the imperfect you?… This is that one unclouded moment, before makeup and shaving and sometimes before brushing your teeth. In that moment you are all that you are. Not all that you can and will be. You are just as valuable staring at your reflection as you will ever be any other time. In a previous post I asked everyone to do an exercise where you stand naked in front of the mirror completely bare and with closed eyes hope and wish that everything about you that you don’t like changes. Lets try that again. Keep standing there with your eyes closed until it feels uncomfortable…. Now open them. What has changed? Nothing right. You are still the same fabulous person you always were but this time you are finally looking at the person in the mirror hopefully with acceptance.
This time lets try a different approach. This time looking in the mirror think of all the things about yourself that you don’t like. All the mistakes that you have made, all of the failures that have happened, all of the self doubt and anger that colors your happiness. Think of everything bad about you…. Now open your eyes. The person in the mirror is still the same but the time has come to kill the negative you… That person has no place in your new positive future. Negative you must be laid to rest. The day I died was years ago. I looked in the mirror and for the first time in all of my years I saw ME. I realized I wasn’t perfect and that I made mistakes. I looked at all that was bad about me and I realized I was my own worst enemy. I was making ME miserable. I couldn’t look in the mirror without being ashamed of my weight, my smile (I have a chipped tooth), my clothes, my home, my car. I unconsciously compared myself to the women around me and found myself wanting.
I wanted to be sexy, beautiful and desired. I wanted to be perfect. I never knew until that day that I was already perfect. I may not be perfect by anyone else’s standards but for ME I was. I was still flawed but I was fine with that. I now know and embrace being perfectly imperfect. I looked in the mirror and cried myself into a frenzy. I stared at the negative me for so long that I literally wept and then I looked at that me for the last time. After all my tears were shed I realized that the me that I saw was a product of my own fears, misconceptions and beliefs. It wasn’t real. Before I turned away I again closed my eyes and thought of all the things good about myself. I thought of everything about me that I liked. I thought of my weight and began telling myself that the extra was just more of me to love. I chose to lose weight not to be better but to feel better. I smiled fully, chipped tooth and all and I finally I laughed. From then on every time I pass a mirror I smile. Not because I am vain but because I am amazing and so are you.
The death of you needs to be the same. Think of your transformation as if you were a phoenix rising from the flames. You are NOT the negative things that you hold onto. That part of you is being cauterized and removed. The negative you is dead. There is no chance for that person to resurface because you now know you are worth so much more than being your own whipping post. Don’t be afraid to see yourself in the mirror and smile. Don’t be nervous about seeing the real you. Take a photo diary if you must of the new you on a daily basis and allow that person to grow and blossom. Be vain with YOU! Yes YOU are all that and two bags of chips. You know why? Because GOD and nature never makes mistakes. There is only one you. Embrace the breathtakingly, magnificent you.