Life after Death… Loving the person in the mirror

mirrorWhen you wake up in the morning whom do you see in the mirror? Do you see you or the imperfect you?… This is that one unclouded moment, before makeup and shaving and sometimes before brushing your teeth. In that moment you are all that you are. Not all that you can and will be. You are just as valuable staring at your reflection as you will ever be any other time. In a previous post I asked everyone to do an exercise where you stand naked in front of the mirror completely bare and with closed eyes hope and wish that everything about you that you don’t like changes. Lets try that again.  Keep standing there with your eyes closed until it feels uncomfortable…. Now open them. What has changed? Nothing right. You are still the same fabulous person you always were but this time you are finally looking at the person in the mirror hopefully with acceptance.IMG_14981041717464

This time lets try a different approach. This time looking in the mirror think of all the things about yourself that you don’t like. All the mistakes that you have made, all of the failures that have happened, all of the self doubt and anger that colors your happiness. Think of everything bad about you…. Now open your eyes. The person in the mirror is still the same but the time has come to kill the negative you… That person has no place in your new positive future. Negative you must be laid to rest.  The day I died was years ago. I looked in the mirror and for the first time in all of my years I saw ME. I realized I wasn’t perfect and that I made mistakes. I looked at all that was bad about me and I realized I was my own worst enemy.  I was making ME miserable. I couldn’t look in the mirror without being ashamed of my weight,  my smile (I have a chipped tooth), my clothes, my home, my car.  I unconsciously compared myself to the women around me and found myself (26)

I wanted to be sexy, beautiful and desired. I wanted to be perfect. I never knew until that day that I was already perfect. I may not be perfect by anyone else’s standards but for ME I was. I was still flawed but I was fine with that. I now know and embrace being perfectly imperfect. I looked in the mirror and cried myself into a frenzy. I stared at the negative me for so long that I literally wept and then I looked at that me for the last time. After all my tears were shed  I realized that the me that I saw was a product of my own fears, misconceptions and beliefs. It wasn’t real. Before I turned away I again closed my eyes and thought of all the things good about myself. I thought of everything about me that I liked. I thought of my weight and began telling myself that the extra was just more of me to love. I chose to lose weight not to be better but to feel better. I smiled fully, chipped tooth and all and I finally I laughed. From then on every time I pass a mirror I smile. Not because I am vain but because I am amazing and so are you.

IMG_14201586395199The death of you needs to be the same. Think of your transformation as if you were a phoenix rising from the flames. You are NOT the negative things that you hold onto. That part of you is being cauterized and removed. The negative you is dead. There is no chance for that person to resurface because you now know you are worth so much more than being your own whipping post. Don’t be afraid to see yourself in the mirror and smile. Don’t be nervous about seeing the real you. Take a photo diary if you must of the new you on a daily basis and allow that person to grow and blossom. Be vain with YOU! Yes YOU are all that and two bags of chips. You know why? Because GOD and nature never makes mistakes.  There is only one you. Embrace the  breathtakingly, magnificent you.images26

10 thoughts on “Life after Death… Loving the person in the mirror

  1. […] changes so did your heart. All of the mental changes you are undergoing are making you stronger. You are beginning to trust the person in the mirror more and more. You start noticing that you really are in control. Your mind and  heart is finally working together […]


  2. […] … Respecting the person in the mirror so that others can too….  You are becoming conscious of the ‘true you‘ but who are you and do you have […]


  3. […] mother struggled with her weight. And had self image issues. So do I. We both were never really big. We each never got to be over more than a size 14 […]


  4. […] Too many of us do not recognize that it is OK to be an individual. Pretending to be an image that you see is not being you. Looking at yourself and hating the life you lead because you are not getting the desired effects is not the way to go. Once again looking at women for a lot of us that portray an image we claim to be sexually free and adventurous and yet be secretly desire to be the wife or mother at home. We know what we want but how do we get that. In order to get more choices a lot of us look at the men around us and use sex as a way to get attention. We might assume that by being the sex goddess that only women assume is the desired by men,  that man that we have fallen in love with will look beyond the physical and recognize the woman underneath. News flash he may not ever notice that because you are not portraying that image to him. Pretending to be ‘community property’ is the worse disservice a woman can ever do to herself. You do not have to be Clair Huxtable or Carol Brady but you can be the woman that you are. Don’t hide behind your body. It can only carry you so far. Mentally, emotionally and psychologically  find out who you really are and what you truly desire to be. Portray that. Know what you want. Know what you don’t want. Be individual enough to accept that what you desire may be outside of others but that doesn’t mean it is wrong only it is YOUR path. Think singular and not in terms of what you see or hear. Think about only the things that the person in the mirror is truly comfortable with in the light of day completely naked of all layers. Be you. Be true to you. You are who you are and that is OK. […]


  5. […] learned to forgive myself for being me. I forgave my penchant for willingly choosing the wrong men. I forgave me for not LOVING ME. Once I did that I was able to look at life through clearer eyes. I know that I am not perfect but […]


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  10. […] has been so hard walking in my own truth and I admit that at times I faltered. I admit to feeling ashamed of who I was and whom I was becoming!  I wanted to hide instead in the comfort of my blankets as if the world would not be able to find […]


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